Friday, April 24, 2015

ANGER

I was angry with my friend
I told my wrath , my wrath did end.
I was angry with my foe,
I told it not, my wrath did grow.

Anger feeds on our thoughts.  The more we think about it , the more it grows in intensity. Its symptoms are easy to perceive -A bloated face, quivering muscles, shaking body, agitated mind, intense atmosphere. Not altogether a happy combination. A person surcharged with a wrathful feeling can be made out from distance. His feasts will be clenched , teeth closed, eyes red, face set and gait wavering. His emotions hold complete sway over him and , at least for the duration of attack his senses bid him good bye.

I am not saying all this to pull your leg. I know this from personal experience. Anger has had lot to do with setbacks I have come across in life; with ruin friendships and bitterness coupled with irritation at home. A number of frustrations I find on reflections could be avoided if I were able to keep my head cool and temper under control. Imagine what unbridled ire can do to piece at home. Husband comes from his place of work. He is tired, fatigued and somewhat irritated at the way fate has treated him. He is not in happy frame of mind. The need of the hour is for him to pull himself up, shake his head and try to smile or say word of cheer to someone. Such an endevour by itself acts as tonic and serves to clear the mind of the poison infecting it. He does not however take cool of wisdom and falls a pray to the easier but extremely harmful course of giving vent to his irrascible temper by picking up a fault or two with the way his wife has arranged things. It starts a chain reaction. The wife who till his arrival was in joyful mood and in fact looking forward to meeting him is unable to swallow the taunts and replies back with equal venom. Such a flare up if continued may end up in a divorce court. Worst still it will do incalcuable harm to health of both, husband and wife. With the fall in health standard irritation becomes a habitual companion and the irate lips keep on emitting smouldering an embers day in and day out.

What is the out come of all this ? The mind becomes restive , the body feeble and senses corroded. WIth this failings it is difficult to progress on the path of prosperity. Friends leave you one by one. Small and insignificant happenings get magnified in your brain and all sense of proportion is gone

Who would like such as thing happen to him ? Surely no one. Yet knowing fully well the evil effects of anger we fail in taking adequate steps to eradicate it from our being. The consciousness may be there all along that it is bad to get incensed at triflings the will to control is missing.

What is needed in the complete change of process of thinking. Thoughts should never be allowed to dwell on others short comings and effects. Rather a deliberate efforts should be made to remember the good turns done to us, the fine and sympathetic sentiments and feelings expressed by people at times and the realisation that we are not the only ones with unsolved problems. Everyone has his own difficulties. IF each one of us start appreciating this point, the burdens we carry on our shoulders and in our heads would be considerably lightened. Be a cheer to others heart and your soul starts jumping with joy. DO not harbour ill thoughts about others and you would avoid ills approaching you. This is natural law which is supreme and unbreakable.

The feeling of anger usually arises more easily when we are discontented with our lot. The best way to overcome this agony is to try to submerge identity in to others, feel happy in others joys and develop a cheerful disposition. We might at first find it extremely hard to practice but if we persist we would definitely succeed.

Let not the sun go down on your wrath.

Failure to heed this advice might cost you nights sleep. Lack of sleep will make you feel miserable the following day. This will adversely affect your business, your carrier , your prosperity and your relations with those near and dear to you. It is therefore in your interests to carefully weigh the thought conveyed by above statement and decide with a cool head wheather or not it will pay you to follow it.
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Old testament prescribes a wonderful remedy to keep wrath at an arms distance. It says -
A soft answer turneth a way wrath.
Listen to what john cable says in 'The effect of example '

The deeds we do , the words we say into still air they seem to fleat
We count them ever passed;
but they shall last.
In the dread judgement , they and we shall meet.

Points to remember:
1. ANger is not good for your health and work.
2. Sure cure for it is to speak a word of cheer to those near us
3. Anger begets anger
4. No problems can solved at the anchor sheet of anger 

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